5 Things Women Do That will Destroy Their Relationship

Note: This post ran a little bit longer than I had initially planned so I have broken it up into  two posts. I have included the first three things in this post and will follow with the last two in an upcoming post.

Most couples start out loving and being so passionate about each other to such an extent that little habits and flaws go unnoticed. If they are observed, passion makes them tolerable. A few months after the passion abates the flaws become glaringly obvious. No one person is perfect and we all have to live with the less than perfect attributes of our loved ones. There are some traits we as women may exhibit that will put a wedge in our relationships and drive men away.

If you find yourself exhibiting one or any of these traits, I admonish you to not be discouraged by them. You can take the revelation as an opportunity for open discussion with your partner in order to identify the degree to which he may be or not be affected by it.  That said let us now identify these five habits.

Extreme Neediness

Men welcome the opportunity to be our knights in shining armors. In fact, they thrive on it and while their egos are boosted when they step in and save us they love independent women who are not constantly obsessed with their every action. A relationship takes commitment and some effort on your part but it should never be your sole purpose. Men can smell a needy woman a mile away and they will turn around and run in the opposite direction as fast and as far away as they can.

How do you know if you are too needy? If you exhibit any of these traits:

• Excessive calls, emails or other forms of communication to the object of your desire.
• Constant need to know where he is and what he is up to.
• Dependence on his presence for your happiness.
• Making him so much a part of your life that nothing else matters.

Needing your partner is normal but when your happiness and who you are as a person is dependent on one person then that need borders on desperation and should be checked.

Lack of Confidence

If you are constantly obsessing about your weight, comparing yourself to other women, questioning his love and all the other things we women worry and fuss about then you are probably pushing him away. We all have areas where we could use some work, that’s fine, but obsessing over them is unattractive. Play up your positive points and stop beating yourself down.

One man confessed that the reason he married his wife is because of her confidence. She is not the most beautiful woman but when she walked into the restaurant where he met her she turned heads because of the manner in which she carried herself. After his first conversation with her he knew she was the one even though marriage was the furthest thing from his mind.

Sloppiness

Some time ago I wrote about men needing an attractive spouse and women responded to say that it is shallow. It’s not, it is a fact! Sloppiness in your appearance will give some men license to stray and walk right out of the relationship. Does it mean that you have to continuously look like a beauty queen? No!

Simply taking some time out for hygiene, making your hair look pretty, shaving from time to time, donning something pretty and feminine on occasion is enough to keep the spice in the relationship. I have made it a habit to take time out before my husband arrives home from work to check my clothing and spritz on some scent so he sees someone who took the effort just for him when he arrives home. Of course after seeing pretty dressed up ladies in the office all day and coming home to an equally beautiful wife at the end of the day lights his fire.