You had a great date, better than you expected actually, you felt that there was a good connection and the attraction , well let’s just say it’s been a while since you’ve felt anything this good.
You gave him your card with your email, mobile, office, Facebook and twitter and he said he will call. Now it’s been two days and you’ve not heard from him. Could it be that you’ve misread the attraction?
Quite often women attach too much significance to the all important call and when it men fail to deliver they begin to question their worth. While there may be reasonably valid reasons (at least in the mind of the man) for not calling women fail to consider those and immediately conclude the worst.
Here are some reasons why men won’t call starting first with the positive.
He does not want to appear overly anxious
Some men will argue that once a man is interested there is no stopping him. He will pursue that woman without rhyme or reason. That may be so for some while others will decide to play it cool so as not to appear too needy. This is a natural instinct for most men and it has nothing to do with who you are as woman. In fact most women are relieved to find out that this is the reason that some men won’t immediately call even after an excellent first date. The key word here is relieved, not necessarily happy.
He is busy
When a man finally calls, perhaps after a few days and says that he has been busy women may not believe this and certainly that thought may never even have crossed their minds. Fact is, when a woman said that she’s been busy to another person as the reason that she has not called it could be that there are more to it than her just being busy. For men, busy means simply that, he’s been busy. Men are really that simple. It does not mean that you have not been on his mind, the timing may just not have been right to call you.
He did not feel the connection and does not want to pursue the relationship
Of course the entire situation could be as bad as women dreamed it could be in that the man just did not feel the connection. Instead of refusing to take your card while you were on the date or calling as he promised and leveling with you, he may have taken the easy way out and decided not to call.
If this is the case then you are better off in the long run accepting this fact and moving on. Do not allow this to negatively impact your future dates or finding the person who is right for you.
If you do receive a call that is later than you expected do not go with your natural feminine instinct to launch an attack on him for not calling. He may or may not reveal his reasons for the delay but if he seems genuinely interested, his reason for not calling is not important enough to immediately sabotage a potentially good relationship.
This means that if he does call or if you decide to call him take heed of the following:
1. Do not take the call or call him if you are upset.
2. Do not interrogate someone you have dated once or just a handful of times about their reasons for not calling.
3. Do not offer favors to get in his good graces.
4. Do not raise negative characteristics or negatives things about the date.
Instead, keep the conversation bright and airy and focus on the positive things that you enjoyed on the date. Thank him for calling and let him know that you enjoyed his company.
All in all if it does not work out it takes trial and error to finally find that perfect one. The important thing is to know that you will find someone and keep your self- assurance while you search.
